Thursday, July 21, 2011

Long Distance Relationships

Now I am no relationship expert, but I have been in a LDR for 7 months & I've learned a lot about what seems to work & what doesn't (for us.) Looking past at the arguments my significant other & I have had, I have been able to come up with 5 key things that if we had always followed would have seriously minimized us arguing.

#1: Don't compare.
Every relationship is different. 
 Have your own expectations of what makes you happy & 
if those are being met then who cares what Bob & Sue are doing.
#2: Be confident.
This goes hand-in-hand with not being jealous. 
At the end of the day, we chose each other rather than being single & 
galavanting with other people in the area. 
Jealousy is nothing but a mood-killing, fight-causing, relationship ender. 
#3: Avoid passive aggressive comments.
All these comments do is make people angry. 
Being straightforward is actually effective at getting your point across. 
#4: No yelling.
Yelling on the phone usually leads to someone hanging up. 
Skype is a way more effective way to talk when angry or upset 
because seeing each other can calm you both down. 
#5: Have a next step.
Whether it's a short-weekend getaway, a weeklong vacation, or moving... 
This is one thing we have always gotten right. :) 


Now... if only I could practice what I preach then I would have the best relationship ever...

But like I told my biffle a few nights ago, relationships take work. They're not going to always be perfect & without effort from both sides, there are going to be kinks & rocky parts. You're gonna have to make compromises you'd rather not make, but you do it because you love each other. & getting through the hard parts is what makes a relationship stronger & what makes it last.

2 comments:

Tereza Anton said...

Wow! You are very courageous, a LDR is really hard and it seams like you two are doing a really good job.

I really like your blog, you have interesting posts here. Do you want to follow each other, I would love that.

Tereza
http://drastic-plastic-fantastic-plastic.blogspot.com/

Nicole said...

Thanks :) & I checked out yours as well & would love a follow back!

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