Long Distance Relationships

Now I am no relationship expert, but I have been in a LDR for 7 months & I've learned a lot about what seems to work & what doesn't (for us.) Looking past at the arguments my significant other & I have had, I have been able to come up with 5 key things that if we had always followed would have seriously minimized us arguing.

#1: Don't compare.

Every relationship is different. 

 Have your own expectations of what makes you happy & 

if those are being met then who cares what Bob & Sue are doing.

#2: Be confident.

This goes hand-in-hand with not being jealous. 

At the end of the day, we chose each other rather than being single & 

galavanting with other people in the area. 

Jealousy is nothing but a mood-killing, fight-causing, relationship ender. 

#3: Avoid passive aggressive comments.

All these comments do is make people angry. 

Being straightforward is actually effective at getting your point across. 

#4: No yelling.

Yelling on the phone usually leads to someone hanging up. 

Skype is a way more effective way to talk when angry or upset 

because seeing each other can calm you both down. 

#5: Have a next step.

Whether it's a short-weekend getaway, a weeklong vacation, or moving... 

This is one thing we have always gotten right. :) 

Now... if only I could practice what I preach then I would have the best relationship ever...

But like I told my biffle a few nights ago, relationships take work. They're not going to always be perfect & without effort from both sides, there are going to be kinks & rocky parts. You're gonna have to make compromises you'd rather not make, but you do it because you love each other. & getting through the hard parts is what makes a relationship stronger & what makes it last.